A: That’s an excellent question.
Depending on the day, I have a different answer. Choosing forgiveness requires the true essence of God’s love: Christ Jesus. Once forgiveness occurs, a true therapeutic release permeates your being which extends across the entire world. Christ Jesus teaches us how to forgive in Matthew 21-22, as follows:
21Then Peter came to Him and said, “Master, how often shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” 22Yeshua said to him, “No, not up to seven times, I tell you, but seventy times seven!”
That’s a lot of times, 490 times. The very nature of Christianity is forgiveness. This is why we should forgive and keep, but sometimes it’s not always easy in a practical sense. Yes, there are countless transgressions that God has forgiven us for. It takes lots of energy to forgive and keep versus forgive and release. I personally know that my analytical mind desires to place them in a box, release the enemy, and ship them to another facility. I know this is not good in the eyes of God, because God wants us to forgive as He forgives. Too often, I have been at the Mercy of God and man. Literally, all my life. As a result, I have created pockets of protection, i.e. (fat molecules) to ensure certain egregious acts never happen again.
My protective measures consist of guarding the gate as I am a self-proclaimed hermit who prevents people from getting too close. For a long time, I refused to truly look at a person’s face or eyes to avoid making a connection with them. I feel like every time I get close to someone and say “oh gee, this person is good, I get slapped, plucked, and feathered by their shadow self. Most of my life, I have been lovingly walking along, enjoying life, then bam out of nowhere this negative entity comes to test. But now I say, let the winter games begin ‘cuz I am ready to win.
At age 7, I almost drowned. Afterwards, I developed an appetite for revenge. I could hold a grudge in my memory bank full as a bucket of flies to denote all the times these folks did me wrong. Some actions could have been easy to forgive while others not so much. I used to see the notion of forgiveness as a power struggle and a bridge to let the action occur again. I even deemed my song chanting as a remedy to warn others or speak to my imaginary tribe that a war was brewing.
At this present state, I grant forgiveness as a necessary action after the transgressor apologizes sincerely. In the past, I found myself in the gray area seeing forgiveness as a solution once the offence could no longer be recalled. Then, I would forgive. I know Jesus said, 7 x 70 or even 700 times; that’s the number of times one should forgive their brothers and sisters. But I am just not that evolved yet. The pain I carry when people hurt me used to cut so very deep.
Again, at age 7, I felt less compelled to even communicate with classmates at my favorite school Simmons. Even then I knew the double-sided nature of man. But I must say, when I gave them a chance, we became good associates and lasting friends until our paths separated. So, I guess it is better to keep an open heart to let people show themselves. Whether they may be labeled a fairy or a foe. So, the moral of the story is: OPEN YOUR HEART AND FORGIVE.
But wolf beware! If a person comes to steal my joy and peace of mind, you had better run because I will never ever, NO, never ever let you do the same.
far from me
don't wait to see
if you intend to inflict harm.
Life is too short and good people too finite
to allow you to waste my time
that were doomed from the start.
That’s just a little tiff off the riff. I hope this helps someone analyze the ones in their life in need of forgiveness. And I pray that they forgive you as well. That’s all. #CHOOSE2FORGIVE